How to Rizz Your Christian Man

Remember when Isaac’s servant knew Rebekah was the one because she offered water to him and his camels? Talk about smooth!

Dating might seem like it’s evolved light years since Biblical times, but the essence remains the same—showing genuine care and godly character.

Ready to rizz up your Christian man with charm, faith, and a bit of historical flair? Let’s dive into the ultimate guide for winning hearts the godly way.

The Historical Art of Wooing: Medieval Courting Tips Meet Modern Dating

Imagine, if you will, a time when wooing a potential mate involved not just a text message and emoji, but the whole shebang—poetry, chivalry, and maybe even a duel or two (just kidding about the dueling, folks, but you get the idea). Ah, the good ol’ days when a knight in shining armor would serenade his lady fair with a perfectly polished sonnet. Today, that might translate to carefully crafted texts and perfectly timed memes.

Believe it or not, there’s value in these old-school tactics even in today’s swipe-right society. Take poetry, for instance. Back in medieval times, knights and troubadours would pen verses expressing their undying love—before “sliding into DMs” was even a thing. While I don’t endorse challenging your crush’s suitors to a joust, sending a thoughtfully worded message can go a long way.

Poetry might have evolved from quill and parchment to keyboards and screens, but the sentiment remains. Who wouldn’t swoon at a well-placed compliment or a cleverly composed note? And yes, rhyming “adore” with “Galore” still works wonders. Trust me on this.

Remember chivalry? It may sound archaic, like something that involves dragons and jesters, but chivalry simply means treating your partner with respect and kindness. Holding the door open, listening attentively, or even offering the last slice of pizza—these are small acts of modern-day knightliness that make a big difference.

Guys in medieval times would have done anything to prove their honor and loyalty. Today, your “knights” might be showing the same dedication by binge-watching your favorite TV show—even if they secretly think Biblical epics were the peak of entertainment.

So there you have it. Whether it’s castle towers or text towers, the principles of courtship remain surprisingly similar. Just remember, with a little creativity and the right dose of humor, you can master the historical art of wooing in the modern age.

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Pray, Preach, Pursue: Spiritual Attractiveness

Finding someone who loves God more than they love their Netflix account is like finding a unicorn in a field of horses. Seriously, having a personal relationship with God is ridiculously attractive. It’s like the spiritual equivalent of abs. When you pursue God passionately, it shows. And guess what? It makes you pretty magnetic.

1 Peter 3:4 nails it:

“Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

So, if you’ve been praying more than the usual “God, please don’t let me run into my ex at the grocery store,” you’re already off to a stellar start. Spiritual maturity isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being real with God and others.

Showcase your spiritual side by doing simple things that reflect your relationship with God. Be excited about your church activities, talk about the latest sermon or Bible study you attended, and don’t be shy to share your favorite Bible verses—bonus points if they’re something other than John 3:16.

How about prayer? It might sound like a Christian dating cliché, but praying together is a total game-changer. It’s like building emotional intimacy plus the Holy Spirit—talk about a power couple! And if you can sneak in a “Dear God, please help us find a good parking spot” prayer, your potential partner might just be impressed by your faith in action.

Also, don’t forget to live out your faith in tangible ways. Volunteer for a charity, join a ministry, or simply be kind and patient. Nothing screams “I’m serious about my faith” more than walking the walk, not just talking the talk.

Think of it this way: being spiritually mature and dedicated isn’t about showing off; it’s about showing up. Your faith isn’t a trophy, it’s a testimony. And trust me, when you’re truly living it out, you won’t need to tell people—it’ll show.

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Godly Wit and Humorous Banter: Jesus Had a Sense of Humor

Did you ever notice how some of Jesus’ parables were downright funny? I mean, comparing Pharisees to whitewashed tombs pretty much equates to dropping a mic in the ancient world. Humor is not just a bonus in a relationship—it’s essential. It’s like the glue that keeps you together when everything else feels like it’s falling apart.

Ecclesiastes 3:4 gets right to the point:

“A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”

Laughter isn’t just the best medicine; it’s also the secret sauce of any healthy relationship. When you can laugh together, you’re building a bond that goes beyond the superficial. So yes, swap those dad jokes and share those hilarious memes—it’s all part of the divine design.

But while humor is great, balance is key. Imagine if every time your partner tried to have a serious conversation, you responded with a joke—talk about a quick exit to the doghouse! Balancing humor with sincerity means knowing when to laugh and when to lend a sympathetic ear. Authenticity in your communication will ensure your words uplift rather than undermine.

Don’t worry if you’re not naturally the funniest person in the room. Humor in dating isn’t about performing a stand-up routine; it’s about connecting. Sometimes, the funniest moments are unscripted and stem from shared experiences.

So, take a cue from Jesus, who balanced truth and humor seamlessly. Whether you’re tossing around some holy humor or having a deep, heartfelt discussion, remember to keep it real, keep it kind, and keep it fun.

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Patience is a Virtue (But Text Back, Please)

So, you’ve just sent a text, and now you’re waiting. And waiting. It’s the classic “Did they fall into a black hole or are they just busy?” scenario. In today’s fast-paced, instant gratification world, patience is becoming a rare virtue. But here’s the kicker—it’s absolutely essential in building a lasting relationship.

You see, even the Bible emphasizes patience. Galatians 5:22-23 point out:

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Patience, or forbearance, is literally a fruit of the Spirit. So, while you’re waiting for that text back, you’re actually exercising your spiritual muscles. Consider it a heavenly workout.

But hey, let’s laugh a little. Ever thought about what “ghosting” would be like in Biblical times? Imagine Ruth sitting in the fields, waiting for Boaz to respond. “Where is he? Did he not see me gleaning out here? I mean, I left him some barley, come on!” Or how about Jacob working seven years for Rachel, only to find out he’s got another seven years to go? That’s like waiting for a reply from someone who leaves you on read for 14 YEARS.

Jokes aside, patience while getting to know someone is crucial. Relationships aren’t built overnight. Sometimes the best things in life take time—like a well-cooked roast or a slowly fermented wine. Or, you know, God’s plan for your life.

So, yes, be patient. But also remember, communication is a two-way street. It’s perfectly okay to want prompt replies and clear communication. If your potential partner is perpetually playing hide-and-seek with their responses, it might be time to have a heart-to-heart about your expectations. After all, even the most patient heart needs reassurance from time to time.

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Fashioning Modesty: Dressing for Success Without Losing Your Style

If you think modesty in fashion means diving head-first into a wardrobe of burlap sacks, think again. The good news is you can rock your personal style while honoring your faith. It’s about striking a balance between looking fabulous and being respectful to yourself and God.

1 Timothy 2:9-10 lays it out pretty well:

“I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.”

Great news—modesty doesn’t mean sacrificing your sense of style. It’s about seeking clothes that reflect your values while still making you feel like the best version of yourself. You can think of it as finding that holy grail outfit—a blend of contemporary fashion with a sprinkle of modesty.

Take today’s fashion trends and infuse them with some thoughtful choices. Layer up! A trendy dress can look chic with a stylish jacket or a cute cardigan. Love those crop tops? Pair them with a high-waisted skirt or pants that give you a modern silhouette without letting it all hang out.

And guys, modesty isn’t just for the ladies. Sporting a sharp look that’s not too showy sends a message of confidence and respect. Opt for well-fitted clothes, rather than skin-tight ones, and you’re good to go.

Accessories are your best friend. Scarves, belts, and jewelry can add those finishing touches that elevate your look without coming off as ostentatious. The goal is to express your unique style in a way that aligns with your faith.

So, yes, you can strut into church without feeling like you’ve time-traveled to the last century. The essence of modesty in fashion is about moderation and intention, not a throwback to Pilgrim chic. Modern fashion offers an array of choices that allow you to be stylishly modest and distinctly you.

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Biblical Wisdom Meets Real-World Chemistry

All the wisdom in the world can’t make up for that elusive spark we call “chemistry.” It’s the real-world magic that turns a friendship into something deeper, something more romantic. When it comes to Christian dating, though, this spark can feel a bit complicated—like making a soufflé without a recipe. But guess what? Even Biblical couples had to navigate this alchemy.

Think about Boaz and Ruth. Sure, they had God’s plan on their side, but let’s not forget Boaz noticed Ruth first because of her actions and character. So yes, they had some divine matchmaking, but they also had to click in a very real, human way.

Song of Solomon 4:9 captures this beautifully:

“You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.”

If that isn’t chemistry, I don’t know what is! This verse reveals that physical and emotional connection was a thing even back then. You’re not just looking for someone who loves Jesus; you’re looking for someone who gives you those butterflies, too. And believe it or not, the two aren’t mutually exclusive.

Balancing biblical wisdom with real-world chemistry is less about choosing one over the other and more about integrating both. As you grow spiritually, look for that zing of connection that turns friendships into love. Pay attention to shared interests, complementary personalities, and yes, that undeniable spark.

However, understand that chemistry can be nurtured. Some of the best relationships start off slow, building over time. Not every romance begins with fireworks. Remember, Boaz didn’t lay eyes on Ruth and propose on the spot. They connected over shared values, respect, and kindness.

So, don’t feel pressured to find an instant Hollywood-style connection. Instead, focus on building a foundation of respect, mutual love for God, and shared life goals. Start with biblical wisdom and let that guide the chemistry. After all, the best relationships are built on both spiritual and emotional connections that are strong enough to withstand any trial or tribulation.

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Family, Friends, and Flocks: Community Matters

When it comes to relationships, it’s not just about two people—it takes a village, or at least a really solid church squad. Community plays a massive role in Christian relationships, providing the support, wisdom, and accountability that help love to grow and thrive. Think of community like the guardrails on a winding mountain road—it keeps you from veering off course.

Proverbs 27:17 nails it with:

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Your family, friends, and fellow believers aren’t just spectators in your love story; they’re participants. That means they get to weigh in, whether you like it or not. Meeting the whole church squad can be a daunting task—everyone from the youth pastor to Sister Betty, who’s been praying in the same pew since 1972. And let’s not forget your best friends and family members, who will probably have a question or ten.

But hey, it’s all part of the process. Your community isn’t just there to grill your significant other about their favorite worship songs or whether they’ve read the latest Francis Chan book. They bring perspective and wisdom that you might miss when you’re too busy staring into each other’s eyes—or let’s be real, bingewatching The Chosen together.

Your community helps you see the big picture and keeps you grounded. They’re the ones who will call you out when you’re being irrational and cheer you on when you’re making great strides. They’re invaluable sounding boards for advice, and they offer prayers that carry weight.

In a healthy Christian relationship, involving your community means you’re inviting people to speak into your lives. This isn’t just about gaining approval, even though that helps (especially if your date can win over Sister Betty). It’s about having a network that supports your relationship and helps it flourish.

So, while you might feel like you’re dragging your significant other to endless church events or family dinners, remember this: these connections strengthen your relationship beyond measure. Embrace your community because, in the long run, they’re the ones who’ll help you navigate the ups and downs, the ins and outs, and yes, even provide that shoulder to cry on when needed.

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Making Decisions Together: The Couple That Prays Together Stays Together

Decision-making in a relationship isn’t all about grandiose life choices like moving cities or having kids. Sometimes it’s as trivial (but crucial) as deciding where to eat tonight. And yes, shared laughter and prayer can make the decisions smoother and more enjoyable even if it means praying over that Thai or Italian dilemma!

When it comes to making decisions as a team, the foundation of shared prayer can’t be overstated. Prayer isn’t just a ritual; it’s a communication line that involves both of you and God. It’s that triangulation that aligns your hearts and minds.

Matthew 18:20 encapsulates this perfectly:

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

So yes, bring God into your decisions. Pray together about the big things—like setting life goals, handling finances, or deciding which church to attend. But also, don’t shy away from praying about the small, everyday stuff. Picture this: you’re in the car, circling the same block for the umpteenth time, debating whether to give up and head to the nearest burger joint. “Dear Lord, guide us to the food that will nourish our bodies and not just our Instagram feeds. Amen.” Not only will you feel lighter, but you’ll also have a divine laugh together.

Shared prayer is like relationship glue; it helps you stick together through thick and thin. It adds a spiritual dimension to your decision-making, making you more considerate, more understanding, and yes, more patient with each other.

Making decisions as a team is all about respect and partnership. It’s recognizing that you’re not in this alone and that your better half has, well, half the say. It’s also about being open to divine guidance and each other’s insights. When disagreement strikes—and trust me, it will—prayer helps cool things down faster than you can say, “pass the halo.”

So go ahead, bring prayer into every layer of your relationship. Whether you’re deciphering life’s great mysteries or just trying to agree on a restaurant, shared prayer is your secret weapon. It’s not just about asking God for guidance but also about bonding with each other in His presence.

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Keep It Real: Authenticity Wins

In a world dominated by filtered selfies and curated Instagram feeds, the pressure to be “perfect” can be overwhelming. But here’s a divine truth: realness is ridiculously attractive. Trying to be picture-perfect all the time? Exhausting. Being authentic? Liberating.

Think about it: Jesus wept (John 11:35). If the Son of God can show vulnerability, why should we pretend to have it all together? Spoiler alert: Nobody does. And guess what? That’s okay. Authenticity builds stronger, more genuine relationships. People crave real connections, not artificially-produced perfection.

Ephesians 4:25 aligns with this:

“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”

Encouraging authenticity in a relationship means embracing the quirks, flaws, and random bursts of weirdness that make you, well, you. Whether it’s your tendency to belt out worship songs off-key while doing dishes or your passion for collecting retro Bible covers, flaunt it. Your authenticity invites your partner to be real, too.

Now, being real isn’t a free pass to be recklessly unfiltered—like over-sharing on a first date about your deepest insecurities or bad-mouthing your ex. Instead, it’s about honest communication, particularly when things aren’t picture-perfect. It’s saying, “Hey, I’m struggling with this,” or “I need prayer for that,” without worrying about judgment.

When you let your guard down, you make space for your partner to do the same. Imagine this: you’ve had a terrible day, and instead of slapping on a fake smile, you share your struggles. Chances are, your partner will do more than just listen—they’ll offer support, empathy, and maybe even some much-needed comic relief. And suddenly, that bad day feels a whole lot better.

Authenticity isn’t just refreshing; it’s foundational. It eliminates the stress of maintaining a facade and brings depth to your relationship. So, drop the filters—metaphorically and literally. Embrace the messiness, the mistakes, and the moments that make you human. In doing so, you create an environment where love can truly grow.

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Chivalry Isn’t Dead: Practical Acts of Love

Who said chivalry died with the knights of the Round Table? Spoiler alert: It didn’t. It’s just evolved a bit. Sure, you don’t have to don armor and slay dragons, but small acts of love and kindness? They’re timeless.

Practical chivalry in modern relationships can be as simple as opening doors, offering your jacket when it’s cold, or sending an encouraging text when you know your partner has a big day. These small gestures speak volumes and build a foundation of trust and respect.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 lays down the ultimate love manifesto:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

While none of us are out jousting for our beloved, these verses remind us that the essence of chivalry—kindness, patience, humility, and protection—is very much alive and necessary.

Imagine this: You’re having one of those days where everything goes wrong, right down to spilling coffee on your favorite shirt. And out of nowhere, your significant other shows up with your favorite latte and a comforting smile. It’s not a grand, sweeping gesture, but it sure feels like one. Practical chivalry is about those intentional, small acts of care that make life sweeter and easier.

And let’s flip the script a bit. Chivalry isn’t just for the guys. Ladies, opening a door for your partner or cooking their favorite meal after a tough day isn’t just thoughtful—it’s modern-day chivalry at its finest. It’s about mutual respect and love shown through actions.

Speaking of doors, how about the classic restaurant scene? You both walk up, and one of you pauses to hold open the door. It’s a small gesture, sure, but it screams, “I respect and value you.” And let’s be honest, it’s a lot easier than battling mythical creatures.

Remember, practical acts of love aren’t about grandiosity; they’re about consistency. It’s those small, everyday actions that build up a bank of goodwill and love. Whether it’s offering the last piece of pizza, leaving sweet notes, or just being there when times are tough, these gestures speak volumes.

So, keep the chivalry alive. Not by slaying dragons, but by conquering everyday challenges together with love, kindness, and just a sprinkle of old-school charm. Your relationship will be stronger for it, and hey, those little acts of love? They never go out of style.

Just as Isaac found his Rebekah, your own love story is waiting to be written with a blend of biblical wisdom, modern charm, and a sprinkle of humor. By incorporating these timeless principles, you can create a relationship that’s rooted in faith and flourishing with joy. So, go forth and rizz your Christian man with confidence and divine inspiration. Your epic love story is just beginning!

To love, God bless.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

How do I approach a Christian man without seeming too forward?

Approaching a Christian man doesn’t have to be a stress fest. Start with a casual conversation, perhaps about the sermon or a shared interest like a favorite worship song. Show genuine interest in his thoughts and let the conversation flow naturally. Subtlety is key—think “friendly and curious,” not “I-have-our-wedding-colors-picked-out.”

What are some good conversation starters that reflect Christian values?

Stick to topics you’re both passionate about. Ask about his favorite Bible verse, what he’s recently learned in his personal study, or his thoughts on a recent sermon. If he’s involved in church activities, show interest in those. You can also share your own experiences and insights to create a meaningful dialogue.

How important is it to involve prayer in our budding relationship?

Prayer is like the secret sauce for a godly romance. When you pray together, you’re not just connecting with each other—you’re inviting God into the relationship. Whether it’s praying for guidance or simply thanking God for bringing you together, it builds a spiritual foundation that’s hard to shake.

Can humor play a role in Christian dating?

Absolutely! Jesus himself had a sense of humor. Light-hearted humor and playful banter can make your conversations more enjoyable and relieve any tension. Just keep it clean and respectful. Remember Ecclesiastes 3:4—there’s a time to laugh, and dating is definitely one of those times.

How can I show my interest without compromising my values?

Show interest by being kind, respectful, and attentive. Compliments about his character, such as his dedication to faith or kindness, go a long way. Actions speak louder than words, so small gestures of thoughtfulness can convey your intentions without making you feel like you’re stepping out of bounds.

Is physical appearance important in Christian dating?

While physical attraction is a part of any romantic relationship, it shouldn’t be the main focus. 1 Peter 3:4 reminds us that inner beauty—an unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit—is what’s important in God’s eyes. Balance looking your best with showcasing your genuine, God-centered character.

How do I balance being patient and wanting a response?

It’s a fine line, but one you can walk with grace. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), but that doesn’t mean you have to accept being left on read indefinitely. If he’s consistently slow to respond, a gentle nudge is perfectly fine. Clear, kind communication can help you both understand each other’s expectations.

How do I include my community in getting to know him?

Don’t skip the group settings. Invite him to church events, Bible studies, or casual group outings. Your community can offer invaluable perspectives and support. Plus, how he interacts with your friends and family can give you insight into his character. Proverbs 27:17 teaches us that as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

What role should chivalry play in the relationship?

Chivalry, in its modern form, is about respect and care. Small acts like holding doors open or walking you to your car speak volumes about his character. It’s mutual, too—both partners showing acts of love and consideration strengthen the relationship. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 sets the gold standard for love—patient, kind, and selfless.

How do I stay authentic without coming off as too intense?

Authenticity is all about being real, not perfect. Share your dreams, fears, and faith journey honestly. Vulnerability, like Jesus weeping (John 11:35), is a strength, not a weakness. Just pace yourself—no need to unload your life story on the first date. Focus on building trust gradually, and let your true self shine through.